"It's okay. I'll run back to Walk-Mart and pick some up for you. I'll get your pictures while I'm there too."- Mike
I was standing over the stove. Butter, cocoa, sugar, and milk melting. I realized we were out of oatmeal, one of the main ingredients for no-bake cookies. If you've made them, you know it's all about timing. Once they start to boil, you have approximately 4 minutes until you have to add the peanut butter and oatmeal. Timing, along with the right ingredients is everything!
Our house was buzzing with guest. Each girl with a friend over. Mom and dad were on their way to help with the kids the next morning. I have grown to love serving others with food, so I really, really, really, needed the OATMEAL! By food, I mean SWEETS, because we all know I can't really cook!
Mike could have said....
Come on Rhonda. Shouldn't you have checked to make sure you had all the ingredients BEFORE you started???
Or... How can you be so forgetful? Didn't you just say the last time that you made them that you needed to pick up more oats?!
Or... Oh well, toss that pan of goo down the drain,
but he didn't.
None of that. Just simple, You have a problem, I'll help you solve it. Never mind that he'd JUST been there with a van load of kids to get food for Sunday dinner. Never mind the pouring down rain.
I quickly turned off the stove before the boiling began, and he ran out the door for oatmeal, and the photos that I'd had trouble getting the day before.
The cookies ended up being saved. And so were my feelings.
I am SO appreciative of other people's Grace, but admit to being less generous with giving it myself.
That night, as we were working away to get dinner on the table, Lukey spilled the container of pepper. All over the table. In the windowsill. All over the floor.
"It's okay baby, I can help you get it cleaned up."
And as Carly flipped her pumpkin pie down the stainless steal trash can and into the floor, "It's okay baby, I can help you get it."
When Mike extended Grace to me for my forgetfulness, it was a gigantic reminder to me to pay if forward. Because the day before at lunch, I got all huffy and puffy over Carly spilling spaghetti sauce on her new My Little Pony Pajamas. Truth be told, I made her cry with my, "I TOLD YOU and TOLD YOU to BE CAREFUL!"
Giving grace is a choice. It's slowing down and seeing PEOPLE behind mistakes instead of being so focused on the problem. It's a chance to show unconditional love - I love you even though....You are Messy! Forgetful! Late! Naughty! etc, etc, etc. It's a chance to help someone else problem solve. To grasp our humanness. It's often choosing to care about people more than stuff, which I can be AWFUL about!!! In all fairness to myself, I'm always trying to spare myself another load of laundry! Or a mess to clean up out of the floor.
Mike's extension of Grace to me had a domino effect. I could easily extend Grace to Lukey and Carly for their mistakes because the same had been done for me.
How about in your home? Could you use some Grace? Chances are, you'll have plenty of opportunities TODAY to get the ball rolling.
Proverbs 19:11 "A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense."
Philippians 4:5 "Let your gentleness be evident to all."
Ephesians 4:29 "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."